About Me

Heather Fedora, LMFT

~A place to slow down, feel understood, and make sense of what you’re experiencing~

I believe people make sense when we understand what they’ve been through.

The patterns that once helped you survive may not always serve you in the present. The way you protect yourself, respond to conflict, experience intimacy, or relate to your body may have developed for very understandable reasons.

Rather than judging those patterns, I want to help you understand them.

My work is grounded in trauma and attachment, with particular attention to the ways our experiences shape how we connect with ourselves and other people.

How I See Therapy

I don’t believe therapy is about simply telling you what to do.

Instead, I want to help you become more aware of what’s happening internally- your emotions, body sensations, thoughts, protective responses, needs, and relationship patterns. From there, we can begin creating new possibilities.

I bring specialized training in trauma and EMDR together with ongoing training in sex therapy and a sex-positive, affirming perspective on sexuality and relationships.

I Believe…

~Your reactions make sense.~

Even when a response feels frustrating, confusing, or disproportionate to the present situation, there is often a history behind it.

~ Your protective parts developed for a reason.~

Rather than trying to get rid of the parts of you that shut down, avoid, control, disconnect, or become overwhelmed, we can become curious about what those parts are trying to accomplish.

~Healing isn’t linear.~

Progress can involve moving forward, getting stuck, discovering something new, and trying again.

~You deserve a space where you can be honest.~

Especially when you’re talking about things that can carry shame- trauma, sex, desire, relationships, your body, or experiences you haven’t felt safe sharing elsewhere.

My Clinical Approach

My work integrates trauma-informed and attachment-focused therapy with EMDR and ongoing sex therapy training. I tailor therapy to the person in front of me rather than assuming there is a single approach that works for everyone.

  • Sometimes we need to slow down.

  • Sometimes we need to understand a pattern.

  • Sometimes we need to process what happened.

  • Sometimes we need to learn new ways of communicating or relating.

  • And sometimes we simply need a safe place to finally say what we’ve been holding inside.

A Little More About Working Together

Therapy is a collaborative process. I’ll bring clinical knowledge, curiosity, and guidance. You’ll bring your experience of yourself. We don’t have to force the process or move faster than your nervous system can tolerate. The goal isn’t simply to understand your past. It’s to help you have more freedom in your present.

Therapy Services

***Specialized support for trauma, attachment, sexuality, relationships, and intimacy. Your concerns may seem separate at first.

  • Trauma

  • Anxiety around intimacy

  • Betrayal trauma

  • Sexual concerns

  • Shame

  • Disconnection from your body

  • Differences in desire

But often, these experiences are connected. Therapy can help you understand those connections and begin creating something different.

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How I Work

  • I don’t believe therapy should feel like you’re being handed a list of things to fix. Instead, we’ll work together to understand what is happening beneath the surface.

    • What are you feeling?

    • What happens in your body?

    • What do you need?

    • What are you protecting yourself from?

    • What did you learn about yourself and relationships through your experiences?

    • And, what might be possible now?

  • Trauma work requires trust. We don’t have to rush into painful material. We’ll build the foundation you need to feel grounded enough to explore difficult experiences.

  • The goal isn’t to judge the parts of you that avoid, shut down, become angry, pursue, withdraw, control, or disconnect.

    Those responses developed for a reason. We can become curious about what they’re trying to protect.

  • Our relationships can activate some of our deepest fears and needs. Understanding attachment can help make sense of why certain interactions feel so powerful- and why the same patterns may continue to repeat.

  • EMDR can be a powerful tool for processing trauma and other distressing experiences. I integrate EMDR when it makes sense clinically and when you’re ready.

  • You don’t have to fit someone else’s definition of normal. Your sexuality, relationship structure, desires, boundaries, and questions can be explored with respect and curiosity.

  • You are the expert on your own experience. My role is to bring clinical knowledge, perspective, curiosity, and tools to help you understand yourself and move toward the life and relationships you want.

    We don’t have to figure everything out at once.

    We just have to begin somewhere.