Heather Fedora, LMFT
You Can Bring the Complicated Parts Here.
Trauma • Attachment • EMDR • Sexuality • Intimacy • Relationships
There are parts of our lives that can be difficult to put into words. The experience that still affects you. The relationship pattern you can’t seem to break. The part of yourself you don’t fully understand. The desire you feel ashamed to talk about. The ways you long for connection while simultaneously protecting yourself from it.
You don’t have to make any of it less complicated before you bring it to therapy.
~There is room for all of it here~
You may understand “why” you feel the way you do and still find yourself reacting in ways you don’t understand.
You may know you’re safe now, but your body doesn’t always feel safe.
You may want closeness and then find yourself pulling away.
You may love your partner deeply while feeling disconnected sexually.
You may carry shame around your body, your desires, your relationships, or experiences from your past.
These patterns don’t mean something is wrong with you. Often, they make sense when we understand where they came from. Therapy can help you slow down, become curious about what’s happening beneath the surface, and create more choice in how you respond.
Sometimes Understanding Isn’t Enough
Therapy Services
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Trauma can affect your sense of safety long after the event has ended.
It can show up through memories, emotions, body sensations, relationships, sexuality, avoidance, hypervigilance, shame, or feeling disconnected from yourself.
EMDR can help process experiences that remain emotionally or physically “stuck”. You may know intellectually that something is over while part of you continues to respond as though it is happening now.
EMDR isn’t about erasing memories. It’s about helping your brain and body process what happened so the past has less power over the present.
As a certified EMDR therapist, I use EMDR when appropriate and may incorporate EMDR into your treatment when it fits your goals and clinical needs.
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Our experiences shape the ways we connect, trust, protect ourselves, experience closeness, and respond when relationships feel threatened.
You may find yourself pursuing connection, pulling away, shutting down, becoming overwhelmed, or fearing rejection or abandonment.
Attachment-focused therapy can help you understand the patterns underneath these responses and create more secure ways of relating and connecting.
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Sexual trauma can affect far more than the memory itself. It can influence your relationship with your body, sexuality, boundaries, trust, intimacy, and sense of safety.
You may experience shame, avoidance, numbness, difficulty with trust, changes in desire, difficulty with intimacy, or feeling disconnected from your body.
Therapy offers a space to explore these experiences with compassion and at a pace that respects you.
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Sexuality can be deeply connected to identity, attachment, self-esteem, trauma, relationships, and the way we experience our bodies.
You may be struggling with desire, intimacy, shame, sexual communication, body image, confidence, pleasure, or feeling connected to your sexuality.
You don’t have to know exactly what the problem is before you begin. We can explore it together without judgment or shame
I am currently completing advanced training toward sex therapy certification and bring a sex-positive, affirming approach to this work.
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Differences in desire are more common than one may think.
But when partners become caught in a cycle of pursuit, avoidance, pressure, rejection, resentment, or shame, sexual differences can become deeply painful.
Therapy can help partners understand the emotional cycle underneath the conflict, communicate more effectively, and create a relationship with intimacy that respects all involved.
The goal isn’t necessarily to make all involved want exactly the same thing. It’s to understand one another and find ways of relating that feel respectful, consensual, and sustainable.
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Relationships don’t all have to look the same.
Therapy may explore:
Communication
Boundaries and agreements
Jealousy and insecurity
Attachment
Trust
Relationship transition
Desire and intimacy
Conflict
Shame or stigma
Aligning relationships with your values
You don’t need to defend your relationship structure here
I provide affirming therapy for individuals and relationships practicing or exploring ethical non-monogamy, including open relationships and polyamory.
We can focus on whether your relationships are healthy, consensual, respectful, and aligned with what you actually want.
It’s about changing the way the story lives inside you.
It’s about being able to experience closeness without losing yourself.
It’s about having boundaries without losing connection.
It’s about understanding your desire rather than being ashamed of it.
It’s about being able to remember without feeling like you’re back there.
It’s about having more freedom to choose how you respond.
And sometimes, it’s simply about finally being able to say:
”This is what is really happening.”
And having someone meet you there.
Healing Isn’t About Erasing Your Story
You don’t need to know exactly what you need.
You don’t need the perfect words.
You don’t need to have your story organized.
We can start with what is happening right now.
You can bring the complicated parts here.
Start Where You Are
Therapy can be vulnerable, especially when you’re talking about trauma, sex, desire, relationships, your body, your needs, or the parts of yourself you’ve learned to hide. Maybe you’ve had experiences where you felt judged, misunderstood, or told who you were supposed to be. This can be different.
I don’t believe therapy is about forcing you into someone else’s definition of healthy, normal, or acceptable. It’s about helping you understand yourself, your relationships, and your patterns- and making choices that are more aligned with who you are.
Your questions are welcome.
Your uncertainty is welcome.
Your contradictions are welcome.
The things you’re embarrassed to say are welcome, too.
You Don’t Have to Perform Here
My work is grounded in trauma and attachment, with specialized training in EMDR therapy and ongoing training toward sex therapy certification. I believe our patterns often develop for understandable reasons. Instead of beginning with: ”What’s wrong with me?”
We can begin with: ”What happened?” “What am I feeling?” “What am I protecting?” “What do I need?”
And eventually: ”What would it feel like to have more choice?”
Therapy is collaborative. We’ll work together at a pace that respects your experiences, boundaries, nervous system, and goals.
My Approach
